Maybe I am a complete oddity, but I have to admit, I am not very good at the being pregnant thing. I really don’t find anything enjoyable about it; the constant morning sickness (for me it lasts the whole pregnancy), the weight gain, the stretch marks, the emotions, the kicks in the gut. Being pregnant can be very disheartening at times when I look around and see all of my pregnant friends rockin’ the “pregnancy glow” and loving every minute of it. And it often makes me wonder what is wrong with me that I don’t like being pregnant?
Now, don’t get me wrong. I definitely agree that pregnancy is an amazing thing. A miracle if you want to say. I love the end result. But I can’t say I love the journey to get there. I definitely felt this way with my first pregnancy. I was sick the entire pregnancy. On top of that, I ended up with pre-eclampsia and was put on bedrest for a few weeks. And, on top of that, the baby scared us by staying in the breech position until the last possible minute.
I thought the fact that I didn’t really enjoy my first pregnancy was the fact that, well, it was my first. Everything was new to me. And all of the health concerns didn’t help either. So I thought my second would be easier and more enjoyable. Wrong. I almost feel like this pregnancy is harder than my first. Not only do I have the morning sickness issue again, but my stretch marks have multiplied at an amazing rate compared to the first. The weight has gone on faster, and I feel like I’m huge. My husband reminds me that I’m pregnant and it’s normal, but I don’t love how I feel. I don’t feel pregnant, I feel fat!
Now to continue with my ranting. I don’t like how I can’t sleep through the night cause I have to go to bathroom and chug a glass of water every few hours. I don’t like the painful feeling I get in my groin when my ligaments start stretching. I don’t like how it’s hard to put my shoes on or shave my legs. I even don’t really enjoy feeling the baby move. Of course, I am glad my baby is healthy and moving, but it is more uncomfortable than enjoyable for me.
Maybe I’m being a pessimist, but I personally can’t find many things about being pregnant that are great. And I am definitely happy for (and maybe even envious) of people who love it.
But, maybe there is a small chance you are one of those outnumbered people, like me, who don’t really like it. If this is your first baby, rest assured knowing that your pregnancy experience will not negatively affect your love for you baby. You may not love being pregnant, but you will love you baby. And if it’s your second or third, etc, you’re a seasoned vet and you know you just have to endure and the end result is so worth it!
So if you don’t like being pregnant, don’t feel alone! And don’t be afraid to share it. It doesn’t make you a horrible mother. In fact, there may be more people who felt the same way as you than you would think.
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