Trying for a Second Baby

Well, my husband and I finally had “the talk”.  We both had been beating around the bush for quite some time as to when we’d try for baby #2, but the conversation eventually surfaced.  I had secretly been hoping that we’d try for another baby in the near future, but I wasn’t sure how my husband would feel about it.  Come to find out, we are completely on the same page.  I have since quit breastfeeding and am birth-control free.  It’s all in God’s hands now!

Is anyone else currently trying for baby #2?  For some reason, I am feeling more apprehensive about the possibility of getting pregnant a second time around.  When we decided to try and get pregnant the first time, I didn’t think twice about it.  I didn’t bother with tracking my ovulation cycle or demanding sex every day.  My mentality was more like “it will happen when it’s supposed to.”  And go figure, I got pregnant 2 weeks after going off of birth control without even trying! 

So why am I a little more nervous the second time around?  My first concern is that I haven’t gotten my period even though my son is almost 11 months old and has been mostly for over a month.  Is it really normal to go that long without getting a period?  I know that breastfeeding can drastically change the natural cycle, but 11 months worth?  It was only within the past week that I have completely stopped breastfeeding, but until that point I only fed him maybe once or twice a day.  Is that enough to hold a period off?  So not getting my period yet has been a little bit of a scare for me.

I come from a medical background and consider myself to be pretty educated in women’s anatomy and physiology, which includes the reproductive system and how it works.  I know what it takes to get pregnant and the signs of ovulation and everything in between.  Yet, I still went out and purchased the ebook “What to Expect Before You’re Expecting” and have been reading it every night.  It’s all stuff I know already.  But I find myself wanting another baby, and quick just like the last time.  I’m not sure what my obsession is this time in having to read about it, but it is what it is.  I spend a good part of the day searching the web on menstruating after baby, ovulation, and getting pregnant with baby #2.

Probably the most extreme thing I’ve been considering is purchasing an ovulation kit.  But not to keep track of what days to have sex.  Honestly, I think my husband and I have sex often enough that we won’t miss the egg.  I simply want to get one for peace-of-mind that everything is still in working order.  However, I don’t want to turn into one of those people who is so obsessed with getting pregnant that they take pregnancy test after pregnancy test when it isn’t necessary.

I guess the thing that worries me the most is that many women who didn’t have any problem conceiving their first baby find they have problems conceiving a second.  Sometimes it due to the physical change that takes place to the uterus after already carrying a baby.  Or maybe it’s the chemical and hormonal change.  Or it can even be age.  I personally know a few women who have only been able to have one child and no matter what they do, can’t have a second.  I don’t want this to turn into a fertility argument of “well they should just be happy they have one”.  Save that for another day.

I just find that knowing we’re ready for baby #2 seems a little more daunting of a task than the first one.  And I guess I want to know if I’m alone on this one or not.  I’ll be sure to keep you posted!

What has been your experience with trying for baby #2?

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